60105 5. Prayer – Talking to Your Heavenly Father

Suppose you were having lunch with a friend one day, and your cell phone rang. You answer, and an unfamiliar, powerful voice calls out your name. 

You ask, “Who is this?” 

You are totally shocked when the answer comes back, “I’m your Heavenly Father. I’m calling to talk with you because you’re my child … and I haven’t heard from you for a while.” 

What do you think your reaction would be? 

Would you feel special … scared … excited … nervous … convicted? 

God wants you to know Him so well that you will always feel like talking to Him … even when you sin and have broken fellowship with Him. Read about how loving and forgiving your Father’s heart is in the story of the “Prodigal Son” in Luke 15:11-32. 

Prayer is vital to growing in our relationship with God. Prayer is one of the most incredible privileges you have as a believer … to come directly into God’s presence and talk with Him about whatever is on your heart. And, He promises to listen! 

Relationship … Not Rules 

When you invited Jesus into your life, you began a relationship with God that is very personal and intimate. All relationships need good communication to be healthy. 

Jesus’ death for you on the cross made it possible for you to talk directly with your Father in heaven. Your Father wants you to seek His guidance, comfort, peace, and intimate companionship at all times…not just when you want things. He actually desires your companionship! (See Galatians 4:6.) 

  • THE HOLY SPIRIT helps you pray. 
  • FAITH makes your prayers effective. 
  • GOD’S WORD teaches you who God is and how to pray. 

Ask Christ to make Himself more real to you. 

“You haven’t done this before. Ask, using my name, and you will receive, and you will have abundant joy” (John 16:24). 

Knowing Your Father 

The first part of this study focuses on God’s character. Once you know who your Father is, it’s much easier to talk with Him. 

Before you begin trying to grasp how totally amazing your Heavenly Father is … you need to know that his greatness is far beyond human understanding. However, His Word does give us part of the picture! 

Attributes of God 

  • God is Sovereign (In Charge) 
  • God is Eternal (Always Existed) 
  • God is Omniscient (All Knowing) 
  • God is Omnipresent (Everywhere) 
  • God is Omnipotent (All Powerful) 
  • God is Immutable (Unchanging) 
  • God is Holy (Righteous and Set Apart) 
  • God is Just (Absolutely Fair) 
  • God is Love (Unconditional Acceptance) 
  • God is Truth (Totally Trustworthy) 

Think about each one of God’s characteristics listed below, and how each attribute affects your view of God … and your relationship with Him. 

God is Sovereign (In Charge) 

God alone is Ruler of the universe. He has complete authority to do whatever pleases Him. 

When you talk to your Father, approach Him with humility and respect for His absolute authority.

Q. Read Job 1:6-12. Throughout this conversation, who was in control at all times?

Q. Whom can you trust at all times?

Q. What does Romans 8:28 mean to you personally?

God is Eternal (Always Exists) 

You live in a time dimension. God doesn’t. God has always existed, and He always will exist. When you join God in heaven, you will live forever with Him. He gives you eternal life! 

When you talk to your Father, think about the time ahead when you will be with Him forever and ever! 

Q. What else has God told us is eternal? (Isaiah 40:8)

Q. How long will God rule? (Psalm 45:6)

God is Omniscient (All Knowing) 

God knows everything in the past. He knows everything that is going on in the universe now. And He knows everything that is going to happen in the future. 

Q. Read Psalm 139, and write down your thoughts

When you talk to your Father, think about the fact that He knows what you are going to say … before you say it. He even knows what is going on deep in your heart. And, He knows what is best for you! 

God is Omnipresent (Everywhere) 

This universe is about thirty billion light years across … and contains at least ten trillion stars (more than all the grains of sand on earth). Yet God is present on every star, and in every inch of space. 

Q. Write down your thoughts on Psalm 139:7-8

When you talk to your Father, think about the fact that wherever you go … He is already there. Even during your darkest time … you can count on his being there. 

God is Omnipotent (All Powerful) 

Since God is all-powerful, nothing is difficult for Him. Even the enormous power to create the universe was just “finger-work” for Him (Psalm 8:3). 

The prophet Jeremiah said: “O Sovereign Lord! You have made the heavens and earth by Your great power. Nothing is too hard for You!” (Jeremiah 32:17). 

When you talk to your Father, humbly realize He can do anything. And, although He cares about every detail in your life, think about how small your problems are when compared with how awesome He is! 

God is Immutable (Unchanging) 

Since we are always changing our minds or moods…it is hard to imagine a God that is always the same, “yesterday, today … and forever!” (Hebrews 13:8). 

When you talk to your Father, think about the fact that because He never changes … His love for you also never changes. It doesn’t fluctuate with your emotions or deeds. It is also important to understand that because God never changes … His Word will never change! 

God is Holy (Righteous and Set Apart) 

God has never thought an unrighteous thought … and never will! He is absolutely pure and perfect in every way! (See Psalm 145:17.) 

Sin is the exact opposite of God’s nature … and without Christ’s death for you on the cross, you would be totally rejected from His presence. God’s holiness is beyond explanation. 

Q. Read Revelation 20:12-15, and write down your thoughts

When you talk to your Father, think about His holiness and righteousness … and how Jesus has made it possible for you to come directly into His awesome presence. 

God is Just (Perfectly Fair) 

God is the Supreme Judge of the universe. He cannot make a mistake … and is always totally fair. There is no “Court of Appeals” (See Jeremiah 9:24.) God cannot “look the other way” regarding your sin. 

When you talk to your Father, think about the fact that He will always be fair by His perfect standard. You need to trust Him even when you think He has been unfair. (See Genesis 18:25.) 

God is Love (Unconditional Acceptance) 

God will never love you less … and He cannot love you more! The Bible tells us that God doesn’t just have love … “He is love” (1 John 4:16). 

The fact that your Father sent Jesus to suffer and die for you on the cross illustrates the depth of His love for you (1 John 3:1). 

When you talk to your Father, think about the high price He paid for your salvation, even though you will never fully understand it or appreciate it. 

Then thank Him! 

God is Truth (Totally Trustworthy) 

God cannot lie. Everything He says is true (Titus 1:2). 

Q. Who claimed to be the truth in John 14:6?

Q. What does Jesus say is the truth in John 17:17?

When you talk to your Father, thank Him for the promises in the Bible. Review the promises … one by one … with Him. Tell Him you want to trust Him! 

Read and pray David’s prayer in 1 Chronicles 29:11-13. 

Praying Boldly 

Now that you begin to see how awe-inspiring your Heavenly Father is, you may be afraid to approach Him in prayer. God’s Word tells you that as His child, you are always welcome in His presence. Go to Him … boldly! 

“So let us come boldly to the throne of our gracious God. There we will receive His mercy, and we will find grace to help us when we need it” (Hebrews 4:16). 

Praying with Humility 

Although God wants you to talk to Him at all times, it is important that you approach Him with a humble heart (1 Peter 5:5-6). God opposes human pride, and wants you to be totally dependent upon His resources. 

Praying with Confidence 

• Pray According to God’s Word

Learn the following prayer principles and look up the Scripture reference that goes with each one and then … pray expectantly! 

• Family Only 

God answers the prayers of His children. He also hears and answers prayers of non-Christians when they come to Christ in faith for the forgiveness of their sins (John 16.24). 

• Abiding Answers 

Jesus said that an abiding Christian can be confident in his prayers being heard … and answered according to God’s will. 

Q. What does John 15:7 say?

Q. What does Psalm 66:18-20 say?

• “Thy Will Be Done” 

Jesus modeled the attitude you should have when you come to your Father. You should desire His will above yours, even though it may be difficult to accept. (Read Mark 14:32-40) 

“And this is the confidence that we have in Him, that, if we ask anything accord­ing to His will, He hears us: And if we know that He hears us, whatsoever we ask, we know that we have the petitions that we desired of Him” (1 John 5:14). 

Now that you know Him, you can be confident … if you are abiding in Him … that He will answer any prayer that is according to His perfect will. 

• God’s Perfect Timing 

Don’t give up on prayers that don’t get answered right away. One of the signs of a Spirit-controlled Christian is “patience” (Galatians 5:22). 

Countless Christians will tell you stories of God’s faithfulness in answering prayers after many years of continual prayer. 

• Your Prayer Life 

You began your prayer life as a member of God’s family when you invited Jesus into your life. 

Q. How has it been going since?

Q. What is different about your prayers since you asked Jesus into your life?

• Beginning Your Day 

If you want your relationship with Christ to grow, plan to meet Him every morning. Many Christians who are abiding in Christ begin their day with a “quiet time.” You can start talking to God “before your feet hit the ground,” as you get out of bed. Say something like this: 

“Good morning Lord! Today, before I get going, I just want You to know I love You … and want to live for You today!” 

• Claiming His Promises 

Take some of God’s promises with you, and claim them for your day. Here’s a great verse to get you started: 

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understand­ing. Seek His will in all you do, and He will direct your paths” (Proverbs 3:5-6). 

Pray: “Lord, today, I am going to trust You to direct my paths, and I am going to seek Your will for my life in each situation.” 

• Restoring Fellowship by Confession 

When you slip and fall, and feel like no one cares, run to your Lord’s waiting arms. He will comfort you and dry your tears. (Read Romans 8:26-27.) 

To restore fellowship with the Holy Spirit, simply tell Him that you have sinned, (name it), and choose to let Him control your life. He will then restore you to fellowship with Him (see 1 John 1:9). 

• Thank, Praise, and Adore Him 

God has done so much for you that it is important to take some time to thank Him, and think about His love and grace. Read the Psalms, and as you read the many praises…stop and make them your own. Think about God’s greatness and His great love for you … and adore Him. (Begin with Psalms 95, 107, 145-150.) 

• Requests 

God wants you to bring Him your requests. In fact, He delights in your requests since it is an act of faith and obedience. Never quit asking Him for things that are biblical and within His will. He promises to answer those prayers … in His time! 

Suggestion: For the next 30 days, start a prayer list. Add to it each day. 

Write down the following:

  • Your personal growth in Christ 
  • Specific issues you are dealing with 
  • Needs of friends and family 
  • Non-Christians you desire to know Christ 
  • Other Christians you can help grow 

If you are reading God’s Word, and allowing the Holy Spirit to control your life…you will naturally talk with Him more.

60106 6. Citizens of Heaven – God’s Family…and You!

The apostle Peter told the early believers to think of themselves as part of a building … with Jesus being the “chief cornerstone.” 

“And now God is building you, as living stones into His spiritual temple … You are a chosen people. You are a kingdom of priests, God’s holy nation, His very own possession” (1 Peter 2:5, 9). 

God is saying wonderful things about you as one of His children. He is saying that you and all other believers are: 

  • Living Stones in His Spiritual Temple 
  • A Chosen People 
  • A Kingdom of Priests 
  • His Very Own Possession 
  • Citizens of God’s Holy Nation 

It doesn’t matter what color your skin is, how smart you are, how pretty you are, what gender you are, or how wealthy or important you are…you are part of Christ’s body with believers from all time. You are a full citizen in God’s Country … heaven! (See Ephesians 2:19.) 

Q. Write down your thoughts on your true identity in Christ as a citizen of His Kingdom

Christ’s Local Body 

You, along with all other Christians of all time make up the body of Christ, the Church. The Bible also calls a local gathering of believers a “church.” 

Jesus made a promise to you and me. When we come together, with Him as our focus … He is there: “For where two or three gather together because they are mine, I am there among them” (Matthew 18:20). 

The Early Church 

The book of Acts describes the establishing of the early churches, which met primarily in homes. The Letters of the New Testament are the instructions written to those churches by the apostles. Everything the Holy Spirit commanded and instructed the early believers also applies to the church today. 

The commitment of the early church was so strong, and their love for one another so great, that within 300 years, Christianity had spread throughout the entire Roman Empire. Jesus used them to change the world! 

The Example of the Early Church 

To get an understanding of how committed the early Christians were to one another, read the Book of Acts in the New Testament. 

Q. What stands out the most to you in your reading of the book of Acts?

Q. How important were the other believers to Paul, Peter, and the other Apostles?

Q. How important are other believers to you?

Q. What are you doing to develop relationships with other believers?

Getting Connected 

One of the main reasons so many Christians live defeated lives is that they have isolated themselves from other believers. Paul told the early Christians that they were each vital “parts” of the “body of Christ.” 

Every part of your body is important. If your little toe hurts, it can make your day miserable. The invisible parts, such as the heart, liver, and kidneys are vital for the life of the entire body. It is similar in the body of Christ. 

Read 1 Corinthians 12:14-27 and write what Paul said about each part of the “body”: 

Q. Who is the HEAD?

Q. Who are the MEMBERS?

Q. Are any MEMBERS insignificant?

Q. What are some of the most important PARTS? (v.22)

When you are joined together with other believers who are growing in Christ, you encourage one another, and keep each other “fired up” in your mutual faith. You enjoy one another’s company and build meaningful relationships together. 

Coming together with other believers in Christ’s name is similar to hot coals, which keep each other hot when lumped together. However, a coal that is separated from the others will soon grow cold. If you aren’t already attending a Christ-centered, Bible-teaching church, ask God to lead you to one. He will help you find the right one. 

Unique Gifts 

You are a unique creation of God. He has given you unique gifts that are needed in the body of Christ. In 1 Corinthians 12:4-11, Paul tells you some vital things about your gifts: 

Q. Who gave you your gifts? (v. 11)

Q. Which gift is most important? (vv. 21-23)

Q. What are you warned against? (v. 25)

Q. What are you to do for others? (v. 26)

Sadly, many leave the job of doing God’s work to those with gifts that are more obvious … such as the speaking gifts. However, God’s Word is clear that each gift is vital to His Kingdom. 

The entire body of Christ is commissioned and gifted to accomplish Jesus’ Great Commission … to “go into all the world and tell the Good News to everyone.” 

In one way, your role in the church is similar to a player on a basketball, foot­ball, or soccer team. Unless each player uses his skill and talent to play, the game could be lost. To win, each player must do his job well. He has gifted you to play your part in building God’s Kingdom. 

The Key to Loving Relationships 

Jesus knows your heart. He knows the difficulty we all have at times with one another. As humans, we all are tempted to gossip, judge, get angry, and accuse one another.

And yet, Jesus truly desires for us to love one another … and model His love to the world. Listen to what He told his disciples in some of His last comments to them: 

“So now I am giving you a new commandment: Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other. Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples” (John 13:34-35). 

How many times have we failed Jesus by disobeying this command? Unfortunately, far too often. 

Love is the key to all of our relationships … but how do we get it? God gives us the answer in Paul’s letter to Timothy: “For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self discipline” (2 Timothy 1:7). 

Q. According to this verse, where does love come from?

God’s Word tells us what love really means, and the fruit it produces in your daily interaction with others. (Read Galatians 5:22.) 

The Corinthian Church was full of “baby” Christians whom Paul called “carnal,” or “fleshly.” They had accepted Christ’s love for them, but treated each other largely from a selfish point of view. They were jealous, and continually griping and arguing (1 Corinthians 3:1-4). 

Q. What do you think is the solution to that kind of behavior?

Paul told the Corinthians what Christ’s love is like when we’re controlled by the Holy Spirit: 

“Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. Love does not demand its own way. Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged. It is never glad about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance” (1 Corinthians 13:4-7). 

Q. Read the entire 13th chapter of 1 Corinthians, and write down your thoughts

Remember when we were studying the Holy Spirit? It is the Holy Spirit that gives you power to love with Christ’s love by faith. You can’t generate it on your own. Love is the result of abiding in Christ. 

Loving by Faith 

Corrie ten Boom was one of the few women who survived the torture and humiliation of Ravensbruck … a Nazi prison camp during World War II. 

Corrie’s faith in Christ had remained strong, even during times of degradation when she and all the other women were paraded naked in front of heckling male prison guards. 

The war was now over, and Corrie had devoted herself to speaking in churches of Christ’s love and forgiveness. 

One day, at a church service in Munich, Corrie was startled to see the SS man who was her former prison guard when she and the other women were herded into the showers like cattle. 

Corrie recalls the incident in her book, The Hiding Place: 

“He came up to me. ‘How grateful I am for your message … to think that, as you say, He has washed all my sins away!’ 

His hand was thrust out to shake mine. And I, who had preached so often … the need to forgive, kept my hand at my side. Even as the angry, vengeful thoughts boiled through me, I saw the sin of them. Jesus Christ had died for this man; was I going to ask for more? 

‘Lord Jesus,’ I prayed, ‘forgive me and help me to forgive him.’ 

I tried to smile, I struggled to raise my hand. I could not. I felt nothing, not the slightest spark of warmth or charity. And so, I breathed a silent prayer. ‘Jesus, I cannot forgive him. Give me your forgiveness.’ 

As I took his hand the most incredible thing happened. From my shoulder along my arm and through my hand a current seemed to pass from me to him, while into my heart sprang a love for this stranger that almost over­whelmed me. 

And so I discovered that it is not on our forgiveness any more than our goodness that the world’s healing hinges, but on His. 

When He tells us to love our enemies, He gives, along with the command, the love itself.” (The Hiding Place, Fleming H. Revell Co.) 

No matter how hard Corrie tried she didn’t have the power in herself to love this former enemy who had humiliated her. 

Yet she knew that Christ had commanded her to love everyone, even her enemies. 

By faith, Corrie confessed her sin, and turned the matter over to God. Her faith resulted in the power to obey. And, her obedience resulted in the great joy and peace that only comes when we abide in Christ. 

Q. Can you think of people in your life you can’t forgive?

Q. What does God tell us to do in Ephesians 4:32?

Take some time alone with God to confess your inability to forgive, and ask the Holy Spirit to forgive others through you. As you abide in Him, He will give you the power! 

Q. Jesus was our greatest example of forgiving others. Who did He forgive in Luke 23:34?

Joining Others 

If you aren’t already connected with others who love Jesus Christ, you are miss­ing out on God’s best for your life. He wants us to be part of a body where we use our gifts to build His Kingdom. 

How to get started: 

  • Ask God to direct you to other believers. 
  • Attend a Bible-teaching and outreaching church. 
  • Join a small Bible study and prayer group. 
  • Use your gifts to reach others for Christ. 
  • Find a mature believer who will “disciple” you. 
  • Ask God for someone you can disciple. 

“If we are living in the light of God’s presence, just as Christ is, then we have fellowship with each other” (1 John 1:7). 

Q. Read Hebrews 10:24-25. How can you apply these verses to your life?

60107 7. Obedience – Running to Win

In John 15, Jesus tells us that an abiding life is essential if we are to produce fruit for Him. Jesus also tells us that the only way to abide in Him is to be obedient to His commands. 

“If you keep my commandments, you will abide in My love; just as I have kept my Father’s commandments and abide in His love” (John 15:10). 

If you are truly running to win the prize God has for you, then aim to please Christ by obeying His commands. Jesus said, “If you love me, obey my commandments” (John 14:15). 

Jesus is not saying that we are saved by obedience. Neither is He saying that we will lose our salvation when we disobey Him. Many people think that God loves us more when we obey Him than when we disobey Him. 

Nothing could be further from the truth. 

However, just as a loving parent disciplines a disobedient child, God will discipline us when we disobey. His love is expressed by discipline, not rejection. He wants the best for us, and that means He wants us to trust and obey Him. 

The entire Christian life is to be lived by faith, not works. Other religions give lists of rules to follow. But when we see how much God loves us, and that Jesus paid the ultimate price for our sins, we will want to obey Him. Trusting the Holy Spirit with your life will result in a life of obedience to his Word. 

Don’t be disappointed when progress in your Christian walk doesn’t happen as quickly as you want. Christian growth is a lifelong process. God is patient with you, and will never take His love away from you. Remember, the Holy Spirit will give you victory any moment you choose to obey Him. 

Many Christians say they trust God with their lives but refuse to obey His Word. James calls their faith “dead.” The abiding life, however, is to be lived by faith, trusting in God’s promises even when we are going through trials and don’t understand how God is answering our prayers. Remember the two circles we looked at earlier? 

Q. Which circle represents your life?

If Christ is directing your life, it will result in a transformation of both your walk and your talk. In other words, your character will become more like Christ’s character, and your words and actions will sound and look like Him. 

The Walk 

We have already seen that a life of obedience to Christ is based upon faith in His Word. You and I are totally unable to live the Christian life in our own strength. However, by faith in His promises, the Holy Spirit gives us the power to over­come trials and temptations. As we surrender our lives to Him, He conforms us into His likeness. 

Jesus is totally unlike us. Let’s take a look at just a few of the differences: 

JESUS IS:

  • Holy
  • Loving
  • Humble
  • Forgiving 
  • Obedient

MAN IS: 

  • Sinful
  • Unloving
  • Proud
  • Unforgiving
  • Disobedient  

In spite of the differences, the Holy Spirit is continually conforming us into Christ’s image.

Q. What does Paul tell us in Galatians 4:19?

Personal Holiness 

One of God’s attributes is holiness, which means He is morally pure and righteous, set apart from any unclean thought or deed. 

The Holy Spirit is working in our lives to remove all filthiness and lustful thinking. 

Nancy DeMoss writes, “True holiness starts on the inside–with our thoughts, attitudes, values, and motives–those innermost parts of our hearts that only God can see. It also affects our outward and visible behavior: ‘Be holy in all your conduct.’”

Q. What does Peter say in 1 Peter 1:15-16?

Q. What does Paul say in 1 Corinthians 6:18-20?

Love for Others 

The Holy Spirit is actively at work in giving us His supernatural love for others. His love is forgiving rather than judgmental, patient rather than irritable, and compassionate rather than easily angered and embittered towards others. Corrie ten Boom was only able to love the prison guard who demeaned and abused her when she made the choice to love him by faith. 

Many Christians are able to put on a good front, which appears loving while holding deep grudges and resentments inside. Christ’s love is totally different; it begins on the inside. 

Since it is impossible for us to simply improve our sinful natures, our act of obedience is to surrender our lives to the Holy Spirit and allow Him to make us like Christ. 

Q. What does Paul say in Galatians 3:3?

Q. What is Paul’s solution in Galatians 2:20?

Q. What does a Christ-centered life look like in Galatians 5:22?

Q. What areas of your walk with Christ have changed to become more like Him?

Q. What areas have not changed that still need to be surrendered to Him?

Your Greatest Investment 

Have you ever thought of your life as an investment? Jesus did. He continually compared your life with an investment of money. Jesus wants you to invest your life for the greatest possible return. He wants you to help build His Kingdom. 

Q. How are you currently investing your life?

The Three Servants 

Jesus told the story (in Luke 19) of a prince who had left his three servants a huge amount of money to invest for him. He would settle with them when he returned years later. When the time came to settle, and reward them for their faithfulness, the prince asked them for accounting. The first servant said, “Master, I doubled your money.” 

The prince was elated, and said, “Great job! Because you’ve earned me so much on that small investment, I’m going to put you in charge of ten cities!”

The second servant said, “Master, I made a fifty percent return on your investment.” The prince said to him, “I’ll put you in charge of five cities.” 

The third servant said, “Master, here’s your money, safe and sound. I kept it hidden in the basement since I was afraid to lose it. I know you … don’t put up with fools.” 

The prince was extremely disappointed… and told him, “You’re right that I don’t put up with fools…and you have been a fool! Why didn’t you at least invest the money in savings so that I would have gotten a little interest on it?” 

Then turning to the others standing nearby, the prince ordered, ‘Take the money from this servant, and give it to the one who earned the most.’ They objected, and said, ‘But Master, he already has double…” 

The prince then said, “That’s what I mean: Risk your life and get more than you ever dreamed of. Play it safe and end up holding the bag” (Luke 19:12- 27, The Message). 

Jesus told His disciples this story to give them the picture that God expects a return on our lives. In other words, He wants our lives to “count” for Him. 

Life on earth is short. Soon it will be over—then it will be too late to invest your life for Christ. 

The Judgment Seat of Christ 

The Bible makes it abundantly clear that when your life is over, you will have the great honor to stand before the Judgment Seat of Christ and receive rewards for your faithful service to Christ. (See 2 Corinthians 5:10.) 

All believers will give an account of their walk with Christ, but unfortunately, not all will receive rewards. 

Q. What does Paul say in 1 Corinthians 3:11-15?

Jesus wants you to invest your life for the greatest possible impact for His Kingdom. Like the prince who rewarded the first servant who doubled his investment, Jesus greatly desires to reward you. 

Expand Your Territory 

In The Prayer of Jabez, author Bruce Wilkinson relates how a relatively unknown man from the Old Testament, Jabez, asked God for “expanded territory” (1 Chronicles 4:9-10). Jabez wanted to be special for God. He wanted to invest his life for the greatest return. (This book will greatly challenge you.) 

D.L. Moody was a man who asked God to expand his territory. He made this statement: “The world has yet to see what one man who is totally sold out to Jesus Christ can accomplish. By God’s grace, I want to be that man!” 

Q. What 'expanded territory' are you asking God to give you?

Ambassadors for Christ 

In the same passage of Scripture that Paul tells the Corinthian believers about the Judgment Seat of Christ, Paul tells them another important fact: 

“We are Christ’s ambassadors” (2 Corinthians 5:20). 

A country selects an ambassador to represent them in the highest manner to another land. Great care is made by the King or President to select the finest representative. 

Your King has selected you to represent Him. You are God’s choice to reach others for Him. You are Christ’s “witness.” 

Your witness for Christ takes two basic forms: 

  • Witness by your “walk” 
  • Witness by your “talk” 

Walk Before You Talk

One reason to grow in your relationship with Christ is so others can see Christ in the way you live. This can have a huge impact on others. Jesus said: “Let your good deeds shine out for all to see, so that everyone will praise your heavenly Father” (Matthew 5:16). 

Q. Write down your thoughts on being Christ’s Ambassador

Work in Progress 

Don’t let the fact that you are a “work in progress” stop you from sharing Christ with others. Satan would love for you to keep silent about your new relationship with Christ. 

However, if you are not living for Christ, that behavior will be obvious, and sharing Christ will appear hypocritical to others. 

Q. Is there anything holding you back from sharing Christ with your friends and others?

Telling Others the Good News 

Have you ever thought about how many people you know, or rub shoulders with, who are hurting … and are disillusioned with life? In fact, some get so despondent that they consider ending it all. 

Q. Can you think of some people you have the opportunity to share Christ with?

How to Share Christ with Others 

You don’t need to be an expert in the Bible or have years of experience with Christ to witness for Him. There are several ways you can verbally share Christ on a daily basis. 

Informal Sharing 

You don’t have to make a complete presentation of the Gospel to make an impact for Christ. Ask the Holy Spirit to lead you to someone who is open to hearing more about Christ: 

  • Invite a friend to church or a study group which you attend. 
  • Give your personal testimony. 
  • Ask someone to join you at a Christian event. 
  • Introduce a friend to other Christians. 
  • Give out a Christian book or tract. 
  • Refer someone to Y-Jesus.com or another Christian website. 

The key to informal witnessing is to be available … and to ask God to lead you. He will! He has been waiting for you to ask Him! 

Presenting Christ’s Claims Directly 

Everyone needs an opportunity to hear the complete story of how much God loves him/her personally. Once you have established a relationship with a person, and “earned the right to be heard,” pray for an opportunity to share Christ with them. 

We recommend you read, “Is Jesus Relevant Today?” and take time to print it out. You might want to give an extra copy to the person with whom you are sharing Christ. This article emphasizes the fact that Christianity is a relationship with Jesus Christ rather than a set of rules to follow.

Most people reject Christianity because they really don’t understand what it is all about, or they misunderstand and think it is just “religion.” They don’t realize that it is a relationship with their Creator … Jesus Christ! The best way to witness … so that people really understand what the Bible says … is to make a concise presentation of the Gospel with your testimony and biblical references. 

Q. Write out your testimony about how you received Christ, and how He has changed you.

Here are some additional ideas on preparing and sharing your faith with another person: 

Pray 

Go to God about your friends … before you go to your friends about God. Ask God to prepare the person’s heart and to control you by the Holy Spirit. 

Use a Gospel Tract 

In order to be concise and not get side-tracked, use a good Gospel tract, such as The Four Spiritual Laws by Bill Bright (New Life Publications), or The Bridge (Navpress).

Use a Bible 

Carry a small Bible with you that has key verses underlined. It’s best to use a modern translation, such as the New Living Translation. Try to memorize the key verses for each point of the Gospel. 

Share Your Personal Testimony 

Write out your personal testimony, and review it with a friend until you can present it naturally in 3 to 5 minutes. Keep focused on how Christ has changed your life … and how much He means to you. Be enthusiastic … but not phony. Be transparent … and let them know this is real for you. 

Stay Focused 

You fight a spiritual battle when you share Christ with an unbeliever. There may be unusual interruptions … or the person might try to evade the real issues and get you off track. Pray, and keep focused on Christ’s love … and His death for them on the cross. Emphasize how important they are to God. 

Ask For A Decision 

When you have shared Christ with someone, and he or she is open to the mes­sage, don’t be afraid to ask for a decision. As the Holy Spirit leads, expect God to be working in their heart. Ask one of the following questions: 

  • “Does this make sense to you?” 
  • “Would you like to accept God’s Gift?” 
  • “Would you like to make sure?” 
  • “Would you like to ask Jesus into your life?” 

If the person you are sharing with is ready to receive Christ, pray with him or her, using the prayer in your tract, or the one that was included earlier in this booklet. 

The Next Step 

Once a person has come to Christ, it is vital that you share with them how they can grow in their relationship with God. Schedule a time to go through this booklet with them. 

It is also vital that they immediately get connected with other Christians … preferably people with whom they can relate. 

Passing the Baton 

When you lead a person to Christ, you are “passing the baton” to them. Teach them from God’s Word the discipleship principle Paul taught Timothy, so they will pass it on to others: “Teach these great truths to trustworthy people who are able to pass them on to others” (2 Timothy 2:2). 

For those who take God’s Word seriously and want to be discipled, it is strongly recommended that you schedule regular meetings (at least every other week), to get deeper into the Bible. Both a small group Bible study and one-on-one discipleship are recommended for a new believer. 

Run to Win! 

Your race goes on … and there are many miles to go! 

Marathon runners often get weary during the long race. Some quit. Those who finish strong are focused on the finish line, the satisfaction of doing well, and the prize ahead. 

God’s Word tells you how to finish strong: 

“Let us strip off every weight that slows us down … And let us run with endurance the race that God has set before us. We do this by keeping our eyes on Jesus, on whom our faith depends from start to finish” (Hebrews 12:12). 

Q. What weight is slowing you down?

Q. What changes have you made to ensure a well-run race?

Q. What’s the most important thing you have learned in this study?

When Christ is the center of your life, everything will be different. Your life will be full of joy and peace. You will want to please Him. God will give you love for other people, even your enemies. He can take ordinary people and make our lives purposeful and fruitful. 

“By His mighty power at work within us, He is able to accomplish infinitely more than we would ever dare to ask or hope” (Ephesians 3:20). 

Are you ready to risk it all for Christ? He is completely trustworthy … and will be with you in every mile of your race … even when you are weary and feel like quitting. Memorize these verses and hold on to God’s purpose for your life! 

“But those who wait on the Lord will find new strength. They will run and not grow weary. They will walk and not faint” (Isaiah 40:31). 

“It is the will of God that you keep on running. Run well, and receive the prize!” (1 Corinthians 9:24-26). 

“I know what I am planning for you,” says the LORD. “I have good plans for you, not plans to hurt you. I will give you hope and a good future” (Jeremiah 29:11).

34202 How to Deal with Your Anger

Anger is a universal problem. I have observed it in the primitive cannibals in Irian Jaya, uncivilized Indians in the remote jungles of Brazil, illiterate people in tiny villages deep in the forest of Zaire, my playmates when I was a child, in my parents, church members, pastors, highly educated people, the very rich, people in government, and yes, even in myself. Call it what you will: mad, angry, frustrated, annoyed, perturbed, ticked off–all of these words represent a form of anger.

You cannot decide to be angry. You can take elaborate precautions to avoid being angry. But, alas, sooner or later, anger underneath your skin is triggered by a memory, someone’s behavior, a conversation, a phone call, or a letter. It can cause your heart to beat faster, make you sweat, tense up your muscles, foul up your digestive system, alter the way you think, dictate how you act, and trigger negative words from your mouth.

There seems to be universal agreement that anger must be tamed. Yet there is vast disagreement over the cause and the cure.

I have been aware of anger within me as far back as I can remember. Usually I could ignore it, express it safely to people like my parents, swallow it, or work it off in various activities like tennis or basketball.

The first time that I was conscious that I could not manage my anger occurred in my late twenties. At that time, I had a boss who kept me riled up most of the day, a wife who persisted in frustrating me by doing things her way rather than my way, and a tiny toddler who irritated me constantly by simply wanting my attention when I didn’t want to give it. These three people backed me into a corner. They didn’t even know it.

They forced me to face up to the fact that there was something in me that was activated by them and turned me into a person who said things I was sorry for, did things that I regretted, thought things that frightened me, and caused my body (heart, stomach, and muscles) to malfunction.

The solution came for me when I was convinced that I was helpless and needed to be saved from myself. The Bible described my condition exactly: “Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it” (Romans 7:20).

This sentence sums up what almost everyone says when they come to counseling with an anger problem: “My anger is a normal and justifiable response to the way I was treated.”

No one inquires about the possibility of anger being a sin in his or her heart. That word has almost disappeared from their vocabulary. These people seek relief from restlessness, nervousness or anxiety. Their buzzwords are “stressed out” or “burned out.” They are disturbed about their relationships with their spouses, children, other family members, social contacts or people at work or church. People admit anger reluctantly. If they do admit it, they are quick to justify it.

Individuals do come to seek advice when they are the recipients of someone else’s anger. For example, a wife will talk to me about her husband: “When in a good mood, Ted is a pleasant person to be around, but if you catch him when he’s mad–look out. I can tell his mood by the way he shuts the door. If he nearly breaks the window in slamming it, I brace myself for his first complaint.”

And come it will, followed by others. “Why don’t you make those kids keep their bicycles out of the driveway?” “Turn off that TV. There’s racket enough around here without that thing adding to it!” “Women drivers! They should it be kept off the highways after 3:00 in the afternoon!”

It is my observation that almost everyone resists calling any kind of anger “sin.” Multitudes of people (including me) have faced up to problems such as drinking, swearing, or stealing as sin and now it’s behind us. It’s been dealt with.

Dealing with anger is different. You can be completely and totally repentant over your anger. Confession leads to welcome relief from tension. I suspect that most people experience some anger every week. You think you have dealt with it, and it shows up again.

I have observed that one difficulty in dealing with anger is the wide range of intensity with which it can be expressed. On the one end, there is such extreme anger that it leads to violent physical abuse or even murder. We have no difficulty recognizing such anger as sin. But, on the other end of the continuum, is anger that is so mild as to be almost unnoticeable. This “annoyance level” of anger is easy to ignore; for example, mild frustration at a child who won’t make his bed, at a nearly empty gas tank in the car, at a traffic light, or at an impolite clerk.

You can compare anger to the flow of contaminated water into a tub. A wide-open faucet yields the same kind of water as a dripping faucet. One drop at a time will gradually fill a tub if the drain hole is plugged. It may take weeks to fill the tub with contaminated water, but eventually there will come a time when one more drop will make the water spill over the top. All that water came from the same polluted source.

Extreme anger is easy to recognize and impossible to ignore. The body pumps adrenaline into the bloodstream, causing the heartbeat to accelerate, the blood pressure to rise, the mouth to become dry, the muscles to become tense, the mental faculties to become alert, and the emotions to become disturbed.

A drop of anger is not as easy to recognize. To put it another way, it is easy to ignore. Bodily changes are hardly noticeable, but the effects are cumulative. The symptoms are anxiety, restlessness or tension. These drops of anger build up in the body. Eventually, one more incident (major or minor), and anger spills over the top. I listen to people who are puzzled over certain responses that surprise themselves:

“I heard myself screaming at the children to come into the house.”

“I was so mad I actually hit her. It was over which tie I should wear.”

“He lives a thousand miles away. At times, when someone mentions his name, I am fully consumed with anger in a matter of seconds.”

34204 Put Away Anger and Bitterness

I’ve discovered that a lot of people who read the Bible don’t like what it says. For instance, Ephesians 4:31 instructs us to “let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamor, and evil speaking, be put away from you.”

Maybe you struggle with some of these emotions, feeling you have a right to them because of how you’ve been treated. But Ephesians goes on to say, “Be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake has forgiven you.”

Now being kind and forgiving someone is extremely difficult when your feelings aren’t so loving! However, at some point, even though you may not want to, you decide to try to love the one who has mistreated you. To your surprise, you discover that it doesn’t work! You can control what you say, the way you look at them, and the way you behave, but you can’t control your feelings. Why is that?

2 Corinthians 3:5-6 gives us an answer: “Not that we are sufficient of ourselves to think any thing as of ourselves; but our sufficiency is of God; Who also hath made us able ministers of the new testament; not of the letter, but of the Spirit, for the letter killeth, but the Spirit giveth life.” So yes, you can possibly control your behavior, and the way you talk, but you can’t control your spirit. The Christian life isn’t a matter of self-improvement, or will power, or determination, it’s a matter of a changed heart, and only God can change your heart!

Ask God to change your heart!

Take a step . . .
Ask God in prayer to show you the real condition of your heart. Admit to Him your wrong emotions, desires, and selfishness. Tell Him you’re sorry and ask Him to forgive and cleanse you. Ask Him to help you to submit to Him and to fill your heart with kindness, tenderheartedness, forgiveness, and love.

34206 Perfect Love Casts Out Fear

It’s agonizing. Any gathering of people frightens me. In a traffic jam, I feel like jumping out of the car and running away. I force myself to go to church and sit there with a feeling of suspense. Even a few customers lined up to buy something in my place of business frighten me. I feel trapped.”

The gentleman speaking was a college graduate and successful in business. He went on, “It started when we moved to an apartment. The people below us and beside us were noisy. We could hear their radios. They would drop things. Often another car was in my parking space. Finally, I insisted on moving to our own home. My wife wasn’t bothered at all by these things and she resisted our moving back to a home of our own, so now there is a wall building between us.

“I used to enjoy people. Now I even feel anxious about going out for dinner.”

It is a helpless feeling for a successful businessman to be tormented by vague fears that seemingly have no origin.

We turned together to the Bible to see if there was some help for him. There we found a verse that threw some light on his problem: “There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear: because fear has torment. He that has fear is not made perfect in love” (1 John 4:18).

His problem was not vague, after all. He was an irritable man. His reactions to his neighbors, to his wife, to the man in the parking lot were hostile. Even though he was well educated and successful, his heart was not filled with love. In his effort to ignore his feelings of irritation and anger, he became anxious and convinced himself that his anxiety was caused by being in crowds. Then he became fearful of being in the presence of any people. The more he thought about this, the more fearful he became.

”Do you mean that my problem is not fear, but a lack of love?” he asked. He couldn’t accept this idea. He had always thought of himself as a friendly, congenial person. He left our meeting unbelieving and crushed.

We continued to talk for many weeks. Gradually, he acknowledged that he was an irritable person. He began to realize that there was nothing to fear in the midst of people. Repentantly, he asked the Lord to forgive him and to change his heart. The grace of God and His love took away the fear of saying or doing something that would embarrass him because of his irritations.

34208 Overcoming Resentment

Amy was a widow–the consequence of a motorcycle accident. Her husband was killed instantly. It happened two years earlier, and she continued to grieve over the loss of her husband. He was fun-loving and outgoing. She missed his friendly, cheerful presence. She always looked forward to his coming home. They were best friends. There were no children. She now lives alone in the house they were buying. She works in the church office and loves her job. When the church doors are open, she is always there. But going home is hard and lonely. Some friends have suggested that she move out of the house and live somewhere else. Her house holds too many memories.

That statement caught my attention. What kind of memories? Isn’t it good to have happy memories? Is it possible that there are unhappy memories that crowd out the happy ones? I encouraged her to recall some unhappy memories toward the people who caused the accident that killed her husband.

She took me by surprise. Yes, there were unhappy memories. They centered around that motorcycle. She did not want him to buy it. In the first place, it was a strain on the budget. They could not afford a powerful motorcycle and a decent car–so they drove a ten-year-old car. They would go for long motorcycle rides in the evenings. He was a bit reckless, cutting in and out, going too fast. She hated those rides. He loved them. He insisted on riding the motorcycle to church. She despised showing up at church with her helmet and messed-up hair.

One night he proposed that they go for a ride. It was an ideal evening. She did not want to go. The discussion became heated, but she stood her ground. He went for a ride alone. A car went through a stop sign and hit him broadside. He died on the pavement.

How does she feel when she talks about this? It makes her mad. He left her with an old car, house payments, and even motorcycle payments. He was underinsured, which left her to pay off some debts. She hates writing those checks. If only he had listened to her, it would not have happened. Her thoughts are usually disapproval of his choices. She resents the position he left her in. Over and over, she reviews her grudge against him.

I could see another problem. But when to speak and when to wait is often difficult to discern. The Bible says, “Speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into him who is the Head, that is, Christ” (Ephesians 4:15).

My heart went out to her. Was she ready for my opinion? What does she think I will say? She thinks I will tell her to quit resenting her husband. But she tells herself that she is entitled to resent him. I agree. Her husband left her in a mess. She can nurse her grudge against her husband as long as she wishes. But she must realize that she is punishing herself. As long as she holds her grudge, her life is anchored in the past. Over and over again she relives the agony of that day and nurses her resentment. She can be released from this bondage only if she is ready to let it go.

Jesus instructs us to forgive men their trespasses (Matthew 6:14) and to love one another (John 13:34), so I finally said, “One option you have is to forgive your husband, repent of your resentment, let the Lord forgive you, and then ask him to fill your heart with love.”

She was ready for that opportunity. I observed a miracle as she released her grudge, asked for forgiveness, and received the love of God in her heart. Immediately she was released from her burden, and now she is free.

Amy’s experience illustrates what happens when two problems coexist. One can overshadow the other. It seems reasonable that the tragic death of her husband would explain her misery. In this case however, it was the resentment that held the sting.

34210 Escaping Difficult Situations

“Love, joy, and peace would be ours if only we could get off this island.” These were the words of a couple who found themselves in a frustrating situation.

You might identify with this couple’s statement because you’re feeling, “If I could only get out of the situation I’m in, that would do it for me. I could be happy. I could do the Lord’s work. I could love other people.”

But the truth of the matter is: God is with us in every situation, and He is with us right where we are! What we need to discover is how to respond appropriately to our current circumstances. You can either have a wonderful time underneath your skin, or a miserable time underneath your skin, and it’s all up to you. The question is: Do you want to experience true peace, or are you more content with being angry, with bearing a grudge, with complaining, with being cranky? The answer to that question requires some personal reflection!

Jesus has offered us a solution to responding to our difficult situations! In Matthew 11:28, He calls us to “Come unto me all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn of Me. I am gentle and humble in My heart, and you will find rest for your soul.”

“Come unto Me . . .” Not come with me to the golf course or the gym. Not come and engage with me in a class or some form of recreation. Not “just get busy” with me as we take on planning a party, or a trip or a church event. “Come unto Me!” True contentment and peace is found in HIM!

John 14:27 tells us, “Peace I leave with you. My peace I give unto you. Not as the world gives.” “Not as the world gives” is an important point. There are two kinds of peace: the world’s kind and the Lord’s kind. And it’s important to know the difference between the two. The world’s kind of peace offers exercise and all kinds of facilities where you can work off your tensions and find relaxation. To get your mind off yourself, there are books, radio, TV, and hobbies. And there are fun things to occupy your time, as well as all kinds of relaxation courses and exercises. All these “outlets” can keep you occupied for years, but they ultimately only offer the world’s peace.

The Lord’s kind of peace is a peace that gets into your soul. In John 16:33, Jesus says “These things have I spoken unto you that IN ME you should have peace. In the world you’ll have trouble, but I have overcome the world” [emphasis added]. Jesus is talking about an untroubled heart in a troubled world. Isn’t that what you’re looking for?

God is just waiting to give you that peace. He’s waiting for you to ask Him to give you that peace, to open up your life to Him. Allow Him to change you, and challenge you, and transform your inner reactions to life’s situations.

Read Matthew 11:28, John 14:27, and John 16:33.

Take a step . . .

Find a little time to evaluate your reactions to your current situations.

What is keeping you from experiencing God’s love, joy, and peace?

Are you willing to yield yourself to the Lord?

Are you willing to release the emotions to Him that are affecting your life in a negative way?

Do you truly desire His peace?

Ask God to fill you with His peace and to show you how you can change.

34212 Choose the Right Response

Are you troubled by things you’ve done, by what you’ve said to people, or by what people have said to you? Are your words typically supportive, or do you find yourself often critical, caustic or hostile?

Colossians 3:17 says “Whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the Name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks unto God and the Father by Him.” (KJV)

When you speak or act in a way that you know in your heart to be wrong, you pay with your emotions. You chip away at your own self-respect. But one of the most important principles that you can apply to your life is that your mental health is in your control. YOU are the one who must CHOOSE how to respond to individuals and situations in your life that are less than perfect.

You might say, “If only this person would change, then all these wonderfully warm friendly qualities would be released in me.” Not so. Nobody can cause you to be angry, stubborn, immovable, inflexible, and easily irritable. Your behavior is determined by your spirit, and your spirit involves you and God. It’s a unique relationship. It has nothing to do with anyone else.

Romans 13:1-2 says “Let every soul be subject unto the higher powers for there is no power but of God and the powers that are ordained of God. Whosoever therefore resists the power resists the ordinance of God, and they that resist shall receive unto themselves damnation” (KJV). The NIV puts it in a gentler way: “will bring judgment on themselves.” You see, your behavior makes a difference to you.

Don’t allow yourself to drift away from allowing the Lord to fill your heart with His Spirit day by day. Nobody can stop you from calling on God to fill you with His love, joy, peace, gentleness, kindness, and patience. Do what you’re doing and saying in His Name, as though He were right there with you. Let Him help you feel the relief of walking through life with a thankful spirit.

Philippians 2:2-4 tells us to “let nothing be done through strife or vain glory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem the other better than themselves” (KJV).

Becoming preoccupied with the negative qualities of anyone or anything in your life causes you to lose sight of good things. The Creator of the universe laid down His life for you. He has chosen to put the emphasis on your spiritual life. He has chosen to give you of His Spirit, and to make your burden light. He gives you the ability to honor him in all that you do and say.

Take a step . . .
Are you presently holding on to a heavy burden? Open your heart to God’s Spirit and let Him fill your life with joy, peace, love, kindness, and gentleness. Take a moment to pray this prayer:

Lord, help me to be conscious of the fact that You have something to say about the way I interact with people and situations in my life. Help me to be more aware of my response to the tasks that are given to me and how I interact with people. Today I choose to commit what I do and say to You, looking to You for that spirit of joy that you died to give me, doing it in Your Name. Help me to remember I do this with You by my side. In Jesus Name, I pray. Amen.

Read Colossians 3:17, Romans 13:1-2, and Philippians 2:2-4.

34230 A Mother-Daughter Battle

“I love Sara very much and she knows it. But why is she so rebellious?” Mrs. Grant asked me.

This mother was a sincere Christian, and her teenage daughter had been a continual object of her prayers. She could not get Sara to study, do a chore right, get along with her brother, or even eat properly. It was a mother-daughter battle, and it terribly distressed Mrs. Grant. “It’s been very trying, believe me,” she said. “In coming to you, I thought you might help.”

Probing for the cause of the festering trouble, I asked what her feelings were when Sara disobeyed her.

Impatience, anger, and resentment, she confessed. “But in spite of that,” she hastened to add, “I love my daughter very much. Don’t you think I’ve proved this by the torture I’ve been through in keeping to myself the irritation she causes me?”

I guess I shocked Mrs. Grant when I said, “Your bitter feelings toward Sara prove that you do not love her.”

“How can you say such a thing?” she cried. “Doesn’t it take love to carry a cross?”

I opened my Bible to 1 Corinthians 13 and pointed out God’s description of love: Love is kind … and longsuffering. Kindness and longsuffering are fruit of the Holy Spirit produced within the surrendered Christian, I pointed out.

“Hiding your impatience and resentment does not alter the fact that these are present in your heart,” I told her. “These are not the ingredients of love. These are products of our selfish nature. You may pretend to Sara—and to yourself—that they do not exist, but they do!”

Mrs. Grant was very surprised when I traced her anguish to her efforts to act loving rather than to be loving.

“Do you mean that Sara should be allowed to get away with what she does?” she demanded.

“Not at all,” I answered. “Your daughter’s behavior must be dealt with. But before you can deal with Sara, you must deal with your own inner spirit.”

It was months before Mrs. Grant could completely give up her conviction that if only Sara would behave, Mother would be her own sweet self again. It took some time also for her to understand that if she were truly to love Sara, the impatience and resentment would have to be replaced by patience, kindness, and gentleness.

“I’m not capable of patience,” she said desperately one day. “It is so hard to be kind.”

She was right. What was in her heart just naturally came out. But, I assured her, if she repented of her bitter heart, God was ready to help.

She finally dropped her defense and asked God to give her the love she lacked. She discovered God gives all the overflowing love He is asked for, and she could deal with Sara in love, whether or not her daughter responded.

Not surprisingly, Sara did respond and their home is now the happy Christian one it should be.